Roles Played Out In Family Life
With in the family unit, there are important roles for each member to play. Each role is vital to ensure the family's success, since the family unit is in a sense a team, but there are times when every role won't be filled. Even so, the goal of any team is to work together to overcome any and all obstacles the team is faced with. I once told my eldest son that well known saying: "There's no 'I' in team ", to which he grinned slyly and countered with, "Yeah mom, but there is 'me' in team! " Touche.
Anyway, there are many analogies one can use to describe the workings of a family. Since I have boys that means I'm surrounded by manly man stuff like sports, cars, and construction. And so, with in the arena of sports, winning teams don't just happen on their own, they are made with a lot of hard work starting with the coach, and then the players themselves, and ending with all the behind the scenes support staff. In order to bring individual members of that team into becoming a single well oiled winning machine, the hefty wrenches of egos, and selfish agendas must not be allowed to be thrown or dropped into that engine, or all the hard work of team building will be for not. When something has a lot of moving parts, such as an engine, there are more opportunities of break downs, but the best mechanics actively anticipate, and prepare, for possible breakdowns, and immediately fix any unforeseen problems that may occasionally arise. At any rate, teams work best when they support the cause for which they were formed, and humbly support one another, and this is of course the ideal. And since we don't live in an idyllic world, the idyllic family is indeed very rare, but not impossible to achieve, even when certain positions are left vacant. Achieving a loving, nurturing, and successful family involves a lot of hard work, but the most important role to fill is the leadership role. Without a good coach, or leader, the team doesn't stand much chance of winning. I will be examining each role with in Team Family and give a biblical outline as to what each role entails.
Branches on the Family Tree
Male Roles: Female Roles:
The most important roles within the family unity are held by the father and mother. There is no chance for a family to exist, meaning, no one would be born, without these two key players. Biologically speaking, life begets life, and to have children, a male (father) and a female (mother) must procreate, or have sex. Males and females, as God created them, also perform additional roles in the family unit, that suit their physical, psychological and emotional anatomies. In order for a family to be successful from God's point of view, that family unit must run in such a way as God naturally intended, which helps contribute and support a healthy society as a whole.
It goes without saying that immoral people will not agree with God's biblical model, and will even go so far as to challenge it. But you see dear reader, as the sole creator of the universe, the Lord Jesus is not interested in the critique of his creatures regarding his management of creation. He set in place certain universal laws, laws that if broken, will result in a great deal of pain, misery, and even death. Elgaar dairy farm owner understands this concept by letting the cows on his farm raise their own calves. He says they are great mothers, and their milk keeps the calves healthy, and in turn, the calves help him by cleaning the mother's teats and naturally stimulates milk production. He says that conventional farms have a lot of troubles because they work against nature. God designed a cow to raise its calf and provide an abundance of milk for men to use. It took greedy men to think of a way to screw everything up. A conventional farm separates calf from cow as early as possible, they see the calf solely as a means to keep a cow in milk. Have you ever heard the pathetic mooing of a separated calf and mother? It'll break your heart and your ear drums. What exquisite and expensive misery greedy farming has contrived for cow, calf, and farmer. I say expensive because of the vet bills that agribusiness farming can generate. The organic farmers at Elgaar farm understand the importance that soil health plays in the cows health, and use God's natural way, the mother cares for her calf, the calf stimulates milk flow, the farmer gets plenty, the calf gets plenty, everyone's happy.